BDSM, Fetish & Kink
BDSM, fetish, and kink play a central role in the gay scene. Many gay men—whether submissive or dominant—openly live out their passion. But beginners in particular often have questions that they don’t want to ask just anyone. This is where we come in: we provide you with answers, tips, and inspiration on all aspects of BDSM in the gay scene.

Let’s talk about objectification

Tom
10.05.2024


What is tunnel play? BDSM games






Bruno
02.05.2024


Chastity – so your pleasure slave stays well-behaved




R.O.B.
09.04.2024


Tease & denial – everything but an orgasm




Tom
07.04.2024


Dating: Safe behaviour at a BDSM rendezvous


Cora-Lynn
23.03.2024


The Humbler: perfect for your ball torture






Bruno
11.03.2024


What does kink-shaming mean?






Bruno
07.03.2024


Switch position – Versatile in BDSM






Bruno
15.02.2024


10 Red flags for subs when dealing with doms




Tom
11.02.2024


Red flags with subs – Watch out Dom, recognise these 8 signals






Bruno
05.02.2024


Out of character – what you always wanted to know about role play games




R.O.B.
18.01.2024


Warning signals in BDSM




R.O.B.
04.01.2024


Dom & Sub – two very special roles in bed



Gally
02.01.2024


From top to bottom – basic terms explained



Gally
20.12.2023


Metaconsensus and CNC: Education on BDSM practices and responsibility


Gary
16.12.2023
BDSM in the gay scene: Getting started & orientation
BDSM can be exciting and challenging at the same time. Especially as a beginner, you may ask yourself: What do I really want? How far can or do I want to go?
We offer you guidance, show you safe practices, and help you discover your desires with confidence.
Subcategories BDSM, fetishes, and kinks
Well-known BDSM roles and fetish dating
Whether classic BDSM roles such as dom and sub, kink dating, or special practices—you’ll find all the information you need here:
- Which fetishes are particularly common in the gay community?
- How can you recognize red flags when looking for a dom or sub?
- What are tunnel games?
- Which bondage knots should you definitely master?
Whether you’re an experienced fetish lover or just starting out, you’ll find valuable answers here.
The Tom Rocket’s Community
Tom Rocket’s is more than just a shop: we are an open gay BDSM community that supports you.
- For beginners: practical tips and basics for your first sessions.
- For pros: new trends, insider knowledge, and special kink inspiration.
This is how you can find like-minded people and network safely.
Trends, news & updates
Our experienced authors from the scene regularly provide you with:
- hot BDSM trends
- new fetish practices
- tips for subs and doms that will take your sex life to a new level
With us, you’ll always have your finger on the pulse of the gay kink scene.
Practical tips instead of taboos
Are you looking for taboo-free information with real added value? Then you are very welcome here. With us, you will find not only theory, but also real-life experiences. Learn how to make your sessions more intense, how to truly surrender as a sub, or how to lead confidently as a dom. Our content will help you experience BDSM not only safely, but also fulfillingly.
Your journey into the world of BDSM & fetish
Whether you’re a curious beginner or an experienced fetish enthusiast, with us you’ll find:
- Answers to intimate questions
- A lively gay BDSM community
- Trends, tips, and knowledge that will enrich your sex life
Immerse yourself in the exciting world of BDSM, fetish, and kink—we’ll accompany you on your journey.