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title: "Exploring a Tongue Fetish: Licking and Desire"
description: "Tongue fetish (glossaphilia) explained: what it is, what studies on kissing and fetishes show, and how to enjoy tongue play safely."
url: https://gay-blog.tomrockets.com/en/tongue-fetish/
date_published: 2024-07-28
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# Exploring a Tongue Fetish: Licking and Desire

## Inhaltsverzeichnis

- [When do you have a tongue fetish?](#h-when-do-you-have-a-tongue-fetish)
- [What research knows about tongues, kissing and fetishes](#h-what-research-knows-about-tongues-kissing-and-fetishes)
- [Tips on how to live out your tongue fetish](#h-tips-on-how-to-live-out-your-tongue-fetish)
- [Health: what you should know about tongue play](#h-health-what-you-should-know-about-tongue-play)
- [Important: Communicate your tongue fetish](#h-important-communicate-your-tongue-fetish)

Does it turn you on when a hottie on the street sensually sucks a sweet or licks an ice cream with his tongue? Do you get hard when your partner runs his tongue over your nipples during sex or gives your hole some loving attention? Then you probably have a **tongue [fetish](https://gay-blog.tomrockets.com/en/vore-fetish/ "fetish")**. This article tells you what that actually means and how to live it out. And because this fetish has been researched surprisingly well, you also get what science knows about tongues, kissing and fetishes. We draw on the largest fetish study with over 5,000 fetishists, kissing research from Oxford, and an Australian study with 3,677 gay and bisexual men. Sounds like biology class, but it is the best answer to why a wet tongue drives you wild.

## When do you have a tongue fetish?

A **tongue fetish** means the tongue itself is the object of your desire. Not just as a tool for great sex, but as the very thing that turns you on: its look, its movement, its wetness. Psychologist Mark Griffiths of Nottingham Trent University even gave this preference a clinical name in 2013: glossaphilia. Outsiders barely notice this fetish, but it gets you going. A few typical signs help you tell where you stand.

### When the look and tongue tricks excite you

Anyone with a real **tongue fetish** is often aroused by the mere sight of tongues, gets an [erection](https://gay-blog.tomrockets.com/en/erection/ "erection"), and wishes that tongue would glide over their own body. The internet is full of videos in which people show off so-called „tongue tricks“, acrobatic stunts with their tongue. For a tongue fetishist, such videos work like porn. Watching counts too: it is highly erotic when someone licks their lips, sticks out their tongue, or licks things with it.

### Sexy tongue games and their effect

Licking, sucking, or playing with saliva: all of these tongue games are very arousing for many people, even without a pronounced fetish. Fans of tongue play especially love it when a partner licks their fingers or explores their whole body with his tongue. The reverse works too: sliding one or more fingers into his mouth during sex so he can suck on them and circle them with his tongue.

### Accessories for the tongue: piercings, ice cream and sweets

Accessories play a major role in many fetishes. Some tongue fetishists are into tongue piercings, others get horny watching someone lasciviously lick an ice cream. Some even love it when their partner sucks a sweet during sex play. That is comparable to the [smoking fetish](https://gay-blog.tomrockets.com/en/smoking-fetish/ "smoking fetish"), where smoking during sex is the turn-on, except that sweets are far healthier than cigarettes. One warning still applies: if your partner swallows the sweet in all the excitement, a choking fit is the worst case. So always suck carefully.

### Length and flexibility are important, after all

Hardly anyone does not know [Gene Simmons](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gene_Simmons), the bassist of the band Kiss. Among tongue fetishists he should have cult status, because he is famous for his extremely long tongue. Many fetishists go wild for exactly such long, very flexible tongues. For them there is nothing more arousing than a tongue that reaches the tip of the nose or the chin. A tongue like the one Mother Nature gave Gene Simmons guarantees a bulge in the trousers.

## What research knows about tongues, kissing and fetishes

Research on the tongue fetish is surprisingly rich. Several studies covering over 5,000 fetishists, 1,040 respondents and 168 examined cultures deliver the key findings. They help you put your preference into perspective and show: the tongue fetish is more common, more normal and better researched than you think.

### How common are fetishes, really?

The largest fetish study to date comes from Scorolli and colleagues (2007). The team around psychologist Christian Scorolli at the University of Bologna analysed 381 internet discussion groups and estimated, very conservatively, that at least 5,000 fetishists were active in them. The result: body parts and body features form the most common fetish category at 33%, followed by objects at 30%. Feet are by far the most widespread. Mouth and lips rank far behind. Griffiths, the man who coined the term glossaphilia, puts the number of people with mouth-related interests at roughly 1,700 in his reading of the data, about 2% of the fetishists studied.

A tongue fetish sounds like a rare niche. None of these studies measures it directly, but fetishes overall are widespread, and the tongue fetish is no lonely exception. Joyal and Carpentier (2017) asked 1,040 representatively selected adults in Quebec about their sexual interests. Nearly half of the sample expressed interest in at least one category considered unusual, and about one third had experienced such a practice at least once. Fetishism ranked above the statistical threshold for „unusual“, and interest in fetishes was practically equal between men and women. The researchers themselves question whether the line between „normal“ and „anomalous“ sexual behaviour still holds up at all. So with a fetish you are not an exception, but part of a very large majority with their own preferences.

### Why kissing with tongue triggers so much

Kissing research adds another piece to the picture. Hughes, Harrison and Gallup (2007) surveyed 1,041 college students about their kissing behaviour. Men, it turned out, initiated tongue kissing more often than women. The authors suspect a biological reason: male saliva contains measurable amounts of testosterone, a messenger that can influence libido. That is the researchers‘ hypothesis, not a proven mechanism.

What a kiss accomplishes, however, is well established. Wlodarski and Dunbar (2013) from the University of Oxford analysed an international questionnaire completed by 308 men and 594 women. Kissing mainly serves to assess a potential partner’s suitability. On top of that, kissing frequency in established relationships was linked to relationship satisfaction. Evidence that kissing primarily serves to raise arousal, on the other hand, was thin.

And in case you ever wondered whether the whole world kisses like you do: Jankowiak, Volsche and Garcia (2015) examined 168 cultures worldwide. The romantic-sexual kiss, meaning lip contact with or without tongue, appeared in only 46% of cultures. The French kiss is no biological duty, then, but a piece of culture that you happen to practise with particular passion.

### Kissing is the number one practice among gay men

One more number matters specifically for gay men. Rosenberger and colleagues (2011) asked 24,787 gay and bisexual men in the United States about their most recent sexual event with a man. The most common behaviour was kissing a partner on the mouth at 74.5%, ahead of oral sex at 72.7%. Anal intercourse, by contrast, occurred among less than half of the men, at 37.2%. So if you have a **tongue fetish**, you are statistically into the most ordinary of all gay practices. Your fetish and the mainstream sit unusually close together here.

## Tips on how to live out your tongue fetish

By now you are probably wondering how best to live out your **tongue fetish**. Four concrete tips give your preference the room it needs: the right oral hygiene, skilful French kissing, regular practice and the full-body tongue bath. That is how you enjoy a fulfilling sex life with your fetish.

### Oral hygiene is the be-all and end-all

It may sound odd to people without a **tongue fetish**: if you have one, treat your mouth and tongue like sexual organs and care for them accordingly. Concretely: brush your teeth and gums thoroughly and clean your tongue too. According to the Cleveland Clinic, tongue cleaning demonstrably reduces mouth bacteria that cause bad breath and plaque. Mouthwash alone is not enough, by the way, because it only reaches the outer layers of the bacterial film. Mechanical cleaning with a toothbrush or tongue scraper works better. Floss rounds off the routine, so you present your partner with an inviting place for your tongue play.

### French kissing

The simplest way to live out your **tongue fetish** is kissing with tongue. A skilful French kiss adds exactly the right amount of sexuality and sensuality to the moment. When your partner’s tongue enters your mouth, bite it gently and try to suck on it. He will not pull away but push it deeper into your mouth. Respond by sucking on his tongue or working it with gentle bites. An arousing French kiss is like a romantic duel between two tongues. Use it as [foreplay](https://gay-blog.tomrockets.com/en/sex-foreplay/ "foreplay") for what follows. Pay attention to gentle movements and a rhythm that works for both of you. The more intense the French kiss, the hotter the sex afterwards.

### Practise, practise, practise

Practice makes perfect. Do not expect your partner to become a tongue sex expert overnight. It takes practice before he can use his tongue in a way that licks you, the tongue fetishist, into paradise. The tongue is a versatile organ capable of countless arousing activities, from a skilful [blowjob](https://gay-blog.tomrockets.com/en/blowjob/) to lavishly worshipping your hole. But that takes training. With patience, anyone can become a tongue virtuoso. Eventually your partner will be able to pleasure you with his tongue for hours and sensually lick every inch of your body.

### Invitation to a full-body tongue bath

Let your imagination run wild: your partner simply licks you from head to toe with his tongue, slowly and sensually. He starts at your mouth, moves over your neck and earlobes, then down to your chest, where he licks your nipples and sucks on them. Then his tongue glides lower, playing with your belly button, your pelvis and the tip of your cock, circling it tenderly. Next he licks your cock down to the shaft and on to your balls. He does not linger too long, but continues his journey over your thighs, knees and ankles to the tips of your toes. Where tongue and feet meet, a [foot fetish](https://gay-blog.tomrockets.com/en/foot-fetish/) is usually part of the picture. And of course he will not forget to pay your bum a visit. Everything worth knowing about that is in our [rim job guide](https://gay-blog.tomrockets.com/en/rim-job/) with the best techniques for the back entrance.

## Health: what you should know about tongue play

Tongue play is a comparatively harmless practice, but not entirely risk-free. The most important study on this comes from Australia. Chow and colleagues (2019) examined 3,677 men who have sex with men at a Melbourne sexual health centre. 6.2% had a gonorrhoea infection in the throat. The decisive finding: for men with four or more kissing-only partners, the odds of such a throat infection were 1.46 times higher. With four or more partners involving kissing and sex, the odds were 1.81 times higher. Sex-only partners, where no kissing took place, showed no link to the infection at all. The data therefore suggest that tongue kissing itself is a transmission route for throat gonorrhoea, regardless of whether sex happens. What was measured is a snapshot, a statistical association, not definitive proof of cause.

Further kiss-borne transmissions are well documented. Herpes simplex virus type 1, the cause of cold sores, spreads mainly through oral contact according to the World Health Organization. An estimated 3.8 billion people under 50 carry it, that is 64% of that age group worldwide. Glandular fever, the „kissing disease“, also spreads through saliva. And syphilis can even be transmitted by kissing when an infectious sore is present in the mouth. Ficarra and Carlos (2009) report in their review that 40 to 75% of syphilis chancres appearing outside the genitals occur in the mouth.

What does that mean for you? Three things. First: get regular STI tests, because throat gonorrhoea often goes unnoticed, it usually runs without symptoms. Second: with visible cold sores or mouth wounds, kissing is off the table until everything has healed. Third: no panic. The infections named are treatable or harmless, and most people carry HSV-1 anyway. With tests, a bit of attention and the basics from our [safer sex guide](https://gay-blog.tomrockets.com/en/safer-sex/), nothing stands in the way of your tongue programme.

## Important: Communicate your tongue fetish

The **tongue fetish** ranks among the most discreet fetishes of all: no outfit, no equipment and no location gives it away, unlike latex clothing or [puppy play](https://gay-blog.tomrockets.com/en/puppy-play-with-dog-mask/ "puppy play"). If sex without excessive tongue action excites you too, there is no need to talk about your fetish. But if it plays a very important role and is necessary for your fulfilling sex life, the conversation with your partner is worth it. A relaxed situation works best, perhaps over a nice meal, which you can use to talk about your sexual preferences and desires.

Many people love being pleasured with a tongue or doing the pleasuring themselves. Perhaps your partner is especially keen on extensive tongue play. But you will only find out if you ask him what he likes. Avoid having this conversation right during sex. As a rule: living out a tongue fetish only works when everyone involved enjoys the tongue being put to use. Best clarified beforehand, because only then will everyone truly enjoy the tongue, that versatile organ.

## FAQ

### What is a tongue fetish?

A tongue fetish, clinically called glossaphilia, means the tongue itself sexually arouses you. Its look, its flexibility or its wetness trigger arousal, even without it touching you. The fetish belongs to the body-part fetishes, according to research the most common fetish category of all.

### Is having a tongue fetish normal?

Yes. In a representative survey of 1,040 adults, nearly half showed interest in at least one unusual sexual practice, and fetishism ranked above the statistical threshold for „unusual“. A fetish is more the rule than the exception. It only becomes medically relevant when it causes you distress or restricts your life.

### Is a tongue fetish the same as liking French kissing?

No. French kissing is one of the most widespread intimacies there is, and among gay men the single most common sexual practice. A fetish begins where the tongue itself becomes the centre of your arousal, when its look or movement turns you on, entirely without a kiss.

### Is a tongue fetish a disorder?

No. In clinical classification, a fetish only counts as a disorder when it causes marked distress or noticeably impairs your life. A tongue fetish that you enjoy and that harms nobody is a healthy facet of your sexuality.

### Can you catch anything from tongue kissing?

Yes, some infections travel via kissing. An Australian study of 3,677 men links tongue kissing to gonorrhoea in the throat. Cold sores (HSV-1), glandular fever and, with an infectious mouth sore, syphilis can also be transmitted this way. Regular STI tests and a kissing break when sores are visible keep the risk small.

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