BDSM, Fetish & Kink

BDSM, fetish, and kink play a central role in the gay scene. Many gay men—whether submissive or dominant—openly live out their passion. But beginners in particular often have questions that they don’t want to ask just anyone. This is where we come in: we provide you with answers, tips, and inspiration on all aspects of BDSM in the gay scene.

Edgeplay – To the limit

"Edgeplay" is a BDSM term that refers to practices where there is a certain risk to physical health or psyche. It stands for activities that...

R.O.B.

20.10.2023

How Consent Shapes and Safeguards the BDSM World

Consent is the foundation for any BDSM activity and involves clear communication and voluntary agreement. There are different models, such as dynamic consent or consensual...

Gary

19.10.2023

Tied up – Penis bondage positions

There's hardly anything hotter than a tightly bound, hard cock lying in front of you just for you alone. The strangled skin takes on a...

Bruno

09.10.2023

The Uniform Fetish

The "uniform fetish" refers to a sexual preference in which people become sexually aroused when they see people in uniforms. Uniforms are specialised items of...

Tom

08.10.2023

Safety Philosophy CIS – what does this mean in the BDSM world?

The acronyms in BDSM represent different guiding philosophies and models according to which BDSM can be practised. The choice of guiding philosophies depends on your...

Gary

01.10.2023

Everything you need to know about the emotional BDSM drop

In BDSM, a "drop" or "crash" can occur after an intense session, in which a person experiences negative emotional or physical effects. There are two...

Tom

30.09.2023

Safety Philosophy TPE – what does this mean in the BDSM world?

In BDSM, which stands for Bondage & Discipline, Dominance & Submission, Sadism & Masochism, there are various practices, guiding philosophies and types of relationships. One...

Bruno

26.09.2023

Safety Philosophy FRIES – what does this mean in the BDSM world?

FRIES is another leitmotif among many in BDSM, it serves as an acronym and can act as a guide during play. This approach comes from...

Gary

19.09.2023

BDSM and the use of drugs in the process!

BDSM and drugs (including alcohol) should not be mixed to ensure safe and responsible practice. Although some people may experience a relaxing effect from substances,...

Bruno

16.09.2023

Bondage positions for beginners: Awesome tips for gentle bondage play

Imagine your partner helplessly tied up with his arse cheeks spread. The possibilities for pampering, tormenting and stimulating him are endless. The bondage positions offer...

Gally

14.09.2023

Safety Philosophy PRICK – what does this mean in the BDSM world?

PRICK is another of the many guiding principles in BDSM and acronyms that can serve as a guide for play. Some claim that all these...

Gary

09.09.2023

Safety Philosophy RACK – what does that mean in the BDSM world?

BDSM is about more than just letters. There are various concepts designed to ensure that everyone involved has fun and no one is harmed. Over...

Gary

06.09.2023

Safety Philosophy SSC – what does this mean in the BDSM world?

There is more to BDSM than just letters and there are good reasons for this. There are guiding philosophies that have been developed by the...

Bruno

01.09.2023

The role of the BDSM slave: lust, submission and surrender

BDSM has been making its way into more and more bedrooms since the sexy adventures of Mr Grey. And for us gays, too, it has...

Tom

31.08.2023

Masochism in BDSM: Gaining pleasure through pain and submission

The last letter in BDSM, in the context of sadism, stands for masochism. This describes a phenomenon where some people feel sexual pleasure when they...

Tom

26.08.2023

BDSM in the gay scene: Getting started & orientation

BDSM can be exciting and challenging at the same time. Especially as a beginner, you may ask yourself: What do I really want? How far can or do I want to go?

We offer you guidance, show you safe practices, and help you discover your desires with confidence.

Subcategories BDSM, fetishes, and kinks

Well-known BDSM roles and fetish dating

Whether classic BDSM roles such as dom and sub, kink dating, or special practices—you’ll find all the information you need here:

Which fetishes are particularly common in the gay community?
How can you recognize red flags when looking for a dom or sub?
What are tunnel games?
Which bondage knots should you definitely master?

Whether you’re an experienced fetish lover or just starting out, you’ll find valuable answers here.

The Tom Rocket’s Community

Tom Rocket’s is more than just a shop: we are an open gay BDSM community that supports you.

For beginners: practical tips and basics for your first sessions.
For pros: new trends, insider knowledge, and special kink inspiration.

This is how you can find like-minded people and network safely.

Trends, news & updates

Our experienced authors from the scene regularly provide you with:

hot BDSM trends
new fetish practices
tips for subs and doms that will take your sex life to a new level

With us, you’ll always have your finger on the pulse of the gay kink scene.

Practical tips instead of taboos

Are you looking for taboo-free information with real added value? Then you are very welcome here. With us, you will find not only theory, but also real-life experiences. Learn how to make your sessions more intense, how to truly surrender as a sub, or how to lead confidently as a dom. Our content will help you experience BDSM not only safely, but also fulfillingly.

Your journey into the world of BDSM & fetish

Whether you’re a curious beginner or an experienced fetish enthusiast, with us you’ll find:

Answers to intimate questions
A lively gay BDSM community
Trends, tips, and knowledge that will enrich your sex life

Immerse yourself in the exciting world of BDSM, fetish, and kink—we’ll accompany you on your journey.