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    Welcome to Tom Rocket’s BDSM 101 – your source for in-depth BDSM information, practical BDSM knowledge, and everything you need to know about BDSM. Here you will find the basics for a safe, consensual, and fulfilling BDSM experience, supplemented by practical tips on principles such as SSC and RACK, safe words, boundaries, and aftercare.

    The BDSM roles

    The BDSM roles

    Our comprehensive selection offers insights into over 40 exciting play personalities. Immerse yourself in a dense thicket of desire and lust as you explore the...

    Bruno

    12.05.2024

    What is tunnel play? BDSM games

    What is tunnel play? BDSM games

    The captivating world of BDSM, where time seems to stand still, and every touch ignites a new ecstasy. From burning ointments to icy cold -...

    Bruno

    02.05.2024

    Dating: Safe behaviour at a BDSM rendezvous

    Dating: Safe behaviour at a BDSM rendezvous

    Safe and exciting dating locations for your BDSM rendezvous. From cosy cafés and intimate bars to active excursions - find out which location suits you...

    Cora-Lynn

    23.03.2024

    Switch position – Versatile in BDSM

    Switch position – Versatile in BDSM

    Immerse yourself in the exciting world of switching! As a gay switcher, learn all about dominant and submissive roles, intense spanking and role play. Let...

    Bruno

    15.02.2024

    10 Red flags for subs when dealing with doms

    10 Red flags for subs when dealing with doms

    Discover the 10 warning signs for subs when dealing with doms and protect yourself from manipulative behaviour. This blog post uncovers red flags and provides...

    Tom

    11.02.2024

    Red flags with subs – Watch out Dom, recognise these 8 signals

    Red flags with subs – Watch out Dom, recognise these 8 signals

    Watch out, Dom: Recognise these 8 red flags with subs and protect your BDSM relationship from problematic behaviour. From begging and demanding to denial and...

    Bruno

    05.02.2024

    Warning signals in BDSM

    Warning signals in BDSM

    Discover the warning signs and red flags of BDSM and learn how to protect yourself from unhealthy relationships and manipulation. Get to know the red...

    R.O.B.

    04.01.2024

    Dom & Sub – two very special roles in bed

    Dom & Sub – two very special roles in bed

    Hot BDSM games with dom and sub: Dive into the exciting world of BDSM and learn all about the roles of dom and sub. Tips...

    Gally

    02.01.2024

    From top to bottom – basic terms explained

    From top to bottom – basic terms explained

    Curious about the exciting world of top and bottom during sex? Learn all about the basic terms, roles and the exciting dynamic between dominant and...

    Gally

    20.12.2023

    Metaconsensus and CNC: Education on BDSM practices and responsibility

    Metaconsensus and CNC: Education on BDSM practices and responsibility

    In BDSM, everything is based on the clear consent and agreement of all participants. This clearly distinguishes BDSM from violence or assault. It is of...

    Gary

    16.12.2023

    Covering in BDSM

    Covering in BDSM

    In the BDSM dating world, "covering" refers to being secured by a trusted third party. In the past, "chaperones" were traditionally used for this, but...

    Tom

    05.12.2023

    BDSM Master or Serf – Do I prefer to be submissive or the Master of Ceremony?

    BDSM Master or Serf – Do I prefer to be submissive or the Master of Ceremony?

    If you want to be a Gay BDSM Master or just want to learn more about it, there are a few things to consider. It's...

    Tom

    07.11.2023

    Limits and boundaries in BDSM

    Limits and boundaries in BDSM

    Limits are of great importance in BDSM and refer to the personal boundaries of both the dominant and submissive partner. There are hard and soft...

    Bruno

    31.10.2023

    BDSM Session: Time to Play!

    BDSM Session: Time to Play!

    In the BDSM scene, the term "session" refers to the period of time during which BDSM activities take place. It can be translated as "session",...

    Gary

    26.10.2023

    Edgeplay – To the limit

    Edgeplay – To the limit

    "Edgeplay" is a BDSM term that refers to practices where there is a certain risk to physical health or psyche. It stands for activities that...

    R.O.B.

    20.10.2023

    BDSM 101 – Basics for beginners and advanced practitioners

    BDSM is much more than just bondage, spanking, or dominance games. It is a world of its own that requires trust, communication, and clear rules. In our BDSM 101, we explain the most important basics that everyone should know – whether you are just getting started or already have some experience. Our community at Tom Rocket’s shows you openly and honestly how to integrate BDSM into your sex life in a responsible, pleasurable, and safe way.

    BDSM Basics: What you need to know

    BDSM encompasses a variety of practices: bondage, dominance, submission, discipline, sadism, and masochism. All of these aspects can be combined individually – depending on the preferences and limits of those involved. Our articles offer you:

    • BDSM info for beginners: What does BDSM mean and how do I approach it?
    • BDSM knowledge for advanced users: How do I increase intensity and variation?
    • BDSM interesting facts: Historical background and modern developmentsThe goal: to introduce you to this fascinating world in a safe, informed, and inspiring way.

    Safety and consent – the basis of every BDSM game

    Without safety and consent, BDSM is unthinkable. That’s why we place particular emphasis on these topics in our BDSM 101. The basic principles are:

    • Consent: All participants must agree and make clear arrangements
    • Communication: Talk about desires, taboos, and limits beforehand
    • Safety: Knowledge of risks, proper handling of equipment, hygiene We explain step by step how to put these points into practice so that BDSM remains a positive experience for everyone involved.

    Safe words and boundaries – your language in play

    A central element in BDSM is safe words. They allow you to remain in control at all times, even in intense scenarios. In our articles, you will learn:

    • how safe words work
    • what common systems (traffic light system: green, yellow, red) there are
    • why clear agreements before play are essential
    • how to communicate and respect your own boundaries This ensures that pleasure does not turn into overwhelm or injury.

    Aftercare – the importance of follow-up care

    BDSM does not end with the last blow or the loosening of the restraints. Aftercare is an essential part of the experience and serves to stabilize the body and mind after the session. In our BDSM 101, you will learn:

    • why aftercare is important for tops and bottoms
    • what measures help (affection, touch, conversation)
    • how to satisfy physical needs (drinking, rest, warmth)
    • why emotional aftercare deepens trust and intimacy Aftercare is a sign of care – and makes BDSM an intense, safe experience.

    BDSM principles: SSC, RACK, and more

    There are different guidelines that explain and structure BDSM. In our category, you will find comprehensive BDSM information on the most important principles:

    • SSC (Safe, Sane, Consensual): Safe, sensible, and consensual
    • RACK (Risk Aware Consensual Kink): Conscious handling of risks with full consent
    • PRICK (Personal Responsibility, Informed Consensual Kink): Emphasis on personal responsibility We highlight the differences, advantages, and disadvantages of these principles and help you find the right mindset for your play.

    Equipment and practice – BDSM in application

    BDSM knowledge also includes practice. In this section, we explain what equipment is available and how to use it safely. Typical topics:

    • Bondage ropes and restraints – basics of safe knotting
    • Impact instruments – from paddles to whips
    • Toys for pain, pleasure, and control
    • Clothing and fetishes – from leather to latex With our guides, you will learn how to put BDSM into practice without neglecting safety.

    Psychological aspects of BDSM

    BDSM is not only physical, but also mental. Dominance, submission, and role reversal have a strong psychological component. In our articles, we explain:

    • why power games are so fascinating
    • how trust plays a central role in BDSM
    • how psychological dynamics increase pleasure and intimacy This knowledge will help you better understand BDSM and consciously experience it.

    Community knowledge: experience reports and exchange

    In Tom Rocket’s blog, you will not only benefit from advice, but also from real experience reports from the community. Users share their stories, reveal tips, and show you how diverse BDSM is in practice. This exchange makes our BDSM 1×1 lively and practical.

    Regular updates and new BDSM knowledge

    The world of BDSM is constantly evolving. New trends, new types of play, and new discussions are expanding the field. In Tom Rocket’s BDSM blog, we keep you up to date with the latest information, fresh experience reports, and exciting articles.

    BDSM knowledge for gay men at Tom Rocket’s

    Whether it’s the basics, principles, or practice – Tom Rocket’s BDSM 101 offers you everything you need to experience BDSM safely, consciously, and pleasurably. From BDSM info about safe words, boundaries, and aftercare to BDSM facts from the community – here you’ll find the perfect mix of knowledge and practice.

    Tom Rocket’s is your source for BDSM knowledge, community exchange, and practical tips—for an intense, safe, and fulfilling BDSM experience.