BDSM, Fetish & Kink

BDSM, fetish, and kink play a central role in the gay scene. Many gay men—whether submissive or dominant—openly live out their passion. But beginners in particular often have questions that they don’t want to ask just anyone. This is where we come in: we provide you with answers, tips, and inspiration on all aspects of BDSM in the gay scene.

Human Furniture & Objectification Games – when you turn yourself into a piece of furniture and lose yourself in it

Human Furniture – the art of surrender, control, and presence. Discover why objectification can be not just erotic, but deeply empowering and aesthetic.

Gally

12.10.2025

BDSM stories: Spanking, paddling, and whipping for ultimate pleasure

Disclaimer: User-Generated Content with Erotic Material The following story was submitted by a user and contains erotic content. It represents a personal fantasy or experience

UserVoice

09.10.2025

Sex story BDSM: My first experience with shibari—a captivating adventure

Disclaimer: User-Generated Content with Erotic Material The following story was submitted by a user and contains erotic content. It represents a personal fantasy or experience as

UserVoice

26.09.2025

Shibari vs. Kinbaku: What’s the difference?

Discover the difference between Shibari and Kinbaku – two captivating Japanese rope arts often confused. Learn what truly sets them apart.

Roxxy

10.09.2025

BDSM stories: When the CEO “works” with his assistant

User story BDSM: When the end of the workday becomes a test of obedience: A CEO tests his new assistant—with discipline, dominance, and dark elegance....

UserVoice

05.09.2025

Objectification games – passion for lust, power, and identity

Objectification is more than a fetish – it’s a bold game of lust, power, and identity. Dive into the most intense roles of gay BDSM...

Gally

02.09.2025

TEASE in BDSM: How you can have hot fun with trust, empathy, acceptance, sensitivity, and equality

Craving intense, safe, and mindful BDSM? Discover how the TEASE principle—Trust, Empathy, Acceptance, Sensitivity, and Equality—elevates your play.

Roxxy

28.08.2025

The 4Cs of BDSM: Care, Communication, Consent, and Caution

Explore how BDSM becomes not just hot but deeply safe and respectful with the 4Cs: Caring, Communication, Consent & Caution.

Roxxy

26.08.2025

Kitten Play: Meowing, power, and male devotion

Do you enjoy giving up control, being pampered, or do you want exactly the opposite? Then this article might interest you. It’s about kitten play,

UserVoice

24.08.2025

Aftercare for tops and doms: The comprehensive guide

The topic of aftercare for tops and doms is often neglected. Even among experienced enthusiasts of the scene, the prevailing belief is still that aftercare

Roxxy

19.08.2025

BDSM WRAP: Why “Willing, Risk-Aware, Accepted, Personal Responsibility”

Discover what WRAP means in the context of BDSM—and why it's essential for gay men who want intense play with clarity, safety, and consent.

Roxxy

15.08.2025

BDSM aftercare: the most important facts for pleasurable passion

BDSM is more than pain and power—true intimacy begins with proper aftercare. Discover why post-session care is essential for trust and connection.

Roxxy

12.08.2025

Diaper fetish: How does it manifest itself and how is it acted out?

Explore the intriguing world of diaper fetishism – from roleplay and desire to personal identity. Learn how diverse and individual this fetish can be.

Gally

08.08.2025

BDSM principles explained: SSC, RACK, PRICK & more – what you should know before things get serious

BDSM is more than just whips and chains: Discover the key principles like SSC, RACK, and PRICK for safe and consensual play. Ready to explore...

Gally

27.07.2025

Pig Play: When lust, dirt, and devotion become one

It’s no secret that the BDSM world is as diverse as the people who inhabit it. In addition to classics such as dominance and submission,

Roxxy

26.07.2025

BDSM in the gay scene: Getting started & orientation

BDSM can be exciting and challenging at the same time. Especially as a beginner, you may ask yourself: What do I really want? How far can or do I want to go?

We offer you guidance, show you safe practices, and help you discover your desires with confidence.

Subcategories BDSM, fetishes, and kinks

Well-known BDSM roles and fetish dating

Whether classic BDSM roles such as dom and sub, kink dating, or special practices—you’ll find all the information you need here:

Which fetishes are particularly common in the gay community?
How can you recognize red flags when looking for a dom or sub?
What are tunnel games?
Which bondage knots should you definitely master?

Whether you’re an experienced fetish lover or just starting out, you’ll find valuable answers here.

The Tom Rocket’s Community

Tom Rocket’s is more than just a shop: we are an open gay BDSM community that supports you.

For beginners: practical tips and basics for your first sessions.
For pros: new trends, insider knowledge, and special kink inspiration.

This is how you can find like-minded people and network safely.

Trends, news & updates

Our experienced authors from the scene regularly provide you with:

hot BDSM trends
new fetish practices
tips for subs and doms that will take your sex life to a new level

With us, you’ll always have your finger on the pulse of the gay kink scene.

Practical tips instead of taboos

Are you looking for taboo-free information with real added value? Then you are very welcome here. With us, you will find not only theory, but also real-life experiences. Learn how to make your sessions more intense, how to truly surrender as a sub, or how to lead confidently as a dom. Our content will help you experience BDSM not only safely, but also fulfillingly.

Your journey into the world of BDSM & fetish

Whether you’re a curious beginner or an experienced fetish enthusiast, with us you’ll find:

Answers to intimate questions
A lively gay BDSM community
Trends, tips, and knowledge that will enrich your sex life

Immerse yourself in the exciting world of BDSM, fetish, and kink—we’ll accompany you on your journey.