BDSM, Fetish & Kink

BDSM, fetish, and kink play a central role in the gay scene. Many gay men—whether submissive or dominant—openly live out their passion. But beginners in particular often have questions that they don’t want to ask just anyone. This is where we come in: we provide you with answers, tips, and inspiration on all aspects of BDSM in the gay scene.

Sadism and BDSM: Gaining pleasure through pain and dominance

The second meaning of the S in BDSM, besides the duo dominance and submission, is sadism. This term refers to the experience of gratification by...

Gary

21.08.2023

Plan your sex orgy properly

Fuck with friends? Sometimes an uninhibited fuck with several people can be a real highlight. The prerequisite is that everything is well planned. There's nothing...

Bruno

13.08.2023

BDSM: What does submission mean?

The term submission comes from the English, with various meanings including "presentation", "delivery", "sending in", "application", "registration" and "submission". In the BDSM context, submission refers...

Bruno

10.08.2023

Selfbondage – How to knot myself to orgasm

Do you like feeling ropes on your skin? How they slowly press into your flesh, sometimes taking your breath away and simply holding you tight...

Gary

03.08.2023

Safeword: How to use it correctly during BDSM sex

Safeword: The safety measure for sexual encounters and BDSM! Learn more about the importance and use of a safeword to keep sessions or relationships safe...

Bruno

02.08.2023

BDSM: What is Dominance?

Dominance denotes a higher status or power of an individual, group or thing compared to others. The term comes from the Latin word "dominus", which...

Bruno

18.07.2023

BDSM: What does discipline mean?

Discover the world of discipline in BDSM: rules, punishments and self-discipline. Find out how submission and discipline differ in the D/s context. Safety and consensuality...

Bruno

11.07.2023

BDSM: What is bondage and what do I have to watch out for when tying up!

Bondage is an aspect of BDSM where a person is restrained in some way to restrict their freedom of movement. These bondage games can include...

Gary

10.07.2023

Why is aftercare so important after sex?

The art of aftercare: the overlooked but essential component of a BDSM session. Learn how loving care and attention after play can take the experience...

Kenji

01.07.2023

All about the hot Mud Fetish

We all know "Matching" from Grindr - "mud", on the other hand, is about a damn hot fetish where it's allowed to get dirty. Professionally,...

Gary

29.06.2023

Power imbalance in BDSM – Do I prefer to be submissive or the master?

Learn all about the essential feature of BDSM - the power imbalance! This concept is about one person having control over one or more others....

Tom

28.06.2023

Latex – What you need to know about this second skin sex fetish!

Discover the fascinating latex fetish and experience a world full of sensuality and aesthetics. Immerse yourself in the tight and elastic material that emphasises the...

Tom

15.06.2023

Am I a pervert, or what exactly does this term mean?

Live free from shame, follow your sexual preferences, and don't let yourself be restricted by social norms. The term "kinky" is subjective and should be...

Bruno

09.06.2023

Kinks: Everything you need to know!

Discover the exciting world of kink and find out more about sexual preferences outside social norms. Immerse yourself in the kink community, respect boundaries and...

Gary

06.06.2023

The fantastic world of fetish

Explore the diverse forms of expression of sexual preferences in the field of fetishism. Immerse yourself in the world of fetishes and kinks and broaden...

Tom

04.06.2023

BDSM in the gay scene: Getting started & orientation

BDSM can be exciting and challenging at the same time. Especially as a beginner, you may ask yourself: What do I really want? How far can or do I want to go?

We offer you guidance, show you safe practices, and help you discover your desires with confidence.

Subcategories BDSM, fetishes, and kinks

Well-known BDSM roles and fetish dating

Whether classic BDSM roles such as dom and sub, kink dating, or special practices—you’ll find all the information you need here:

Which fetishes are particularly common in the gay community?
How can you recognize red flags when looking for a dom or sub?
What are tunnel games?
Which bondage knots should you definitely master?

Whether you’re an experienced fetish lover or just starting out, you’ll find valuable answers here.

The Tom Rocket’s Community

Tom Rocket’s is more than just a shop: we are an open gay BDSM community that supports you.

For beginners: practical tips and basics for your first sessions.
For pros: new trends, insider knowledge, and special kink inspiration.

This is how you can find like-minded people and network safely.

Trends, news & updates

Our experienced authors from the scene regularly provide you with:

hot BDSM trends
new fetish practices
tips for subs and doms that will take your sex life to a new level

With us, you’ll always have your finger on the pulse of the gay kink scene.

Practical tips instead of taboos

Are you looking for taboo-free information with real added value? Then you are very welcome here. With us, you will find not only theory, but also real-life experiences. Learn how to make your sessions more intense, how to truly surrender as a sub, or how to lead confidently as a dom. Our content will help you experience BDSM not only safely, but also fulfillingly.

Your journey into the world of BDSM & fetish

Whether you’re a curious beginner or an experienced fetish enthusiast, with us you’ll find:

Answers to intimate questions
A lively gay BDSM community
Trends, tips, and knowledge that will enrich your sex life

Immerse yourself in the exciting world of BDSM, fetish, and kink—we’ll accompany you on your journey.