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    Welcome to Tom Rocket’s BDSM 101 – your source for in-depth BDSM information, practical BDSM knowledge, and everything you need to know about BDSM. Here you will find the basics for a safe, consensual, and fulfilling BDSM experience, supplemented by practical tips on principles such as SSC and RACK, safe words, boundaries, and aftercare.

    TEASE in BDSM: How you can have hot fun with trust, empathy, acceptance, sensitivity, and equality

    TEASE in BDSM: How you can have hot fun with trust, empathy, acceptance, sensitivity, and equality

    Craving intense, safe, and mindful BDSM? Discover how the TEASE principle—Trust, Empathy, Acceptance, Sensitivity, and Equality—elevates your play.

    Roxxy

    28.08.2025

    The 4Cs of BDSM: Care, Communication, Consent, and Caution

    The 4Cs of BDSM: Care, Communication, Consent, and Caution

    Explore how BDSM becomes not just hot but deeply safe and respectful with the 4Cs: Caring, Communication, Consent & Caution.

    Roxxy

    26.08.2025

    Aftercare for tops and doms: The comprehensive guide

    Aftercare for tops and doms: The comprehensive guide

    The topic of aftercare for tops and doms is often neglected. Even among experienced enthusiasts of the scene, the prevailing belief is still that aftercare

    Roxxy

    19.08.2025

    BDSM WRAP: Why “Willing, Risk-Aware, Accepted, Personal Responsibility”

    BDSM WRAP: Why “Willing, Risk-Aware, Accepted, Personal Responsibility”

    Discover what WRAP means in the context of BDSM—and why it's essential for gay men who want intense play with clarity, safety, and consent.

    Roxxy

    15.08.2025

    BDSM aftercare: the most important facts for pleasurable passion

    BDSM aftercare: the most important facts for pleasurable passion

    BDSM is more than pain and power—true intimacy begins with proper aftercare. Discover why post-session care is essential for trust and connection.

    Roxxy

    12.08.2025

    BDSM principles explained: SSC, RACK, PRICK & more – what you should know before things get serious

    BDSM principles explained: SSC, RACK, PRICK & more – what you should know before things get serious

    BDSM is more than just whips and chains: Discover the key principles like SSC, RACK, and PRICK for safe and consensual play. Ready to explore...

    Gally

    27.07.2025

    BDSM benefits for health and relationships

    BDSM benefits for health and relationships

    BDSM is more than just kink – it builds intimacy, boosts self-esteem, and strengthens relationships. Discover how power play supports mental and emotional well-being!

    Roxxy

    22.06.2025

    The 7 Most Common BDSM Myths and Clichés

    Where there’s a kink, there’s a myth. Today’s topic is BDSM myths. We’ve all encountered clichés and statements surrounding the topic of BDSM. “They’re constantly

    Roxxy

    21.10.2024

    Subspace in BDSM: Experiences in Trance

    Subspace in BDSM: Experiences in Trance

    The subspace in BDSM is a deep trance state that subs can experience during a session. Trust and relaxation are the keys to achieving this...

    Gally

    29.09.2024

    Getting into BDSM for couples: A guide

    Getting into BDSM for couples: A guide

    Ready to discover the world of BDSM with your partner? Our ultimate guide for couples will show you how to live out your fantasies safely...

    Tom

    12.09.2024

    Wishes in BDSM: Express yourself Sexy!

    Wishes in BDSM: Express yourself Sexy!

    Do you have secret BDSM desires that appear in your wildest dreams? Dive into the exciting world of BDSM and find out how you can...

    Tom

    31.08.2024

    What is a cane (BDSM)?

    What is a cane (BDSM)?

    The ultimate thrill! We take you into the world of canes - from sensual tingling to an intense experience. Learn all about the best materials,...

    Bruno

    22.08.2024

    Playing BDSM for the first time: Tips and hints

    Playing BDSM for the first time: Tips and hints

    BDSM for beginners: Your first hot trip into adventure! Want to know how to make your first BDSM trip safe and exciting? From hot bondage...

    Bruno

    10.08.2024

    The Folsom Street Fair – your event for BDSM and a horny atmosphere

    The Folsom Street Fair – your event for BDSM and a horny atmosphere

    Folsom Street Fair! Are you ready for a hot atmosphere, leather and pure fetish? Immerse yourself in the world of the Folsom Street Fair in...

    Mike

    04.08.2024

    A kick for your nipples – delightful games with pumps and teats

    A kick for your nipples – delightful games with pumps and teats

    Ready for ecstatic climaxes? Nipple suckers unleash unimagined feelings of pleasure! Don't ignore the power of your nipples any longer. Experience how every tingle intensifies...

    Gally

    06.06.2024

    BDSM 101 – Basics for beginners and advanced practitioners

    BDSM is much more than just bondage, spanking, or dominance games. It is a world of its own that requires trust, communication, and clear rules. In our BDSM 101, we explain the most important basics that everyone should know – whether you are just getting started or already have some experience. Our community at Tom Rocket’s shows you openly and honestly how to integrate BDSM into your sex life in a responsible, pleasurable, and safe way.

    BDSM Basics: What you need to know

    BDSM encompasses a variety of practices: bondage, dominance, submission, discipline, sadism, and masochism. All of these aspects can be combined individually – depending on the preferences and limits of those involved. Our articles offer you:

    • BDSM info for beginners: What does BDSM mean and how do I approach it?
    • BDSM knowledge for advanced users: How do I increase intensity and variation?
    • BDSM interesting facts: Historical background and modern developmentsThe goal: to introduce you to this fascinating world in a safe, informed, and inspiring way.

    Safety and consent – the basis of every BDSM game

    Without safety and consent, BDSM is unthinkable. That’s why we place particular emphasis on these topics in our BDSM 101. The basic principles are:

    • Consent: All participants must agree and make clear arrangements
    • Communication: Talk about desires, taboos, and limits beforehand
    • Safety: Knowledge of risks, proper handling of equipment, hygiene We explain step by step how to put these points into practice so that BDSM remains a positive experience for everyone involved.

    Safe words and boundaries – your language in play

    A central element in BDSM is safe words. They allow you to remain in control at all times, even in intense scenarios. In our articles, you will learn:

    • how safe words work
    • what common systems (traffic light system: green, yellow, red) there are
    • why clear agreements before play are essential
    • how to communicate and respect your own boundaries This ensures that pleasure does not turn into overwhelm or injury.

    Aftercare – the importance of follow-up care

    BDSM does not end with the last blow or the loosening of the restraints. Aftercare is an essential part of the experience and serves to stabilize the body and mind after the session. In our BDSM 101, you will learn:

    • why aftercare is important for tops and bottoms
    • what measures help (affection, touch, conversation)
    • how to satisfy physical needs (drinking, rest, warmth)
    • why emotional aftercare deepens trust and intimacy Aftercare is a sign of care – and makes BDSM an intense, safe experience.

    BDSM principles: SSC, RACK, and more

    There are different guidelines that explain and structure BDSM. In our category, you will find comprehensive BDSM information on the most important principles:

    • SSC (Safe, Sane, Consensual): Safe, sensible, and consensual
    • RACK (Risk Aware Consensual Kink): Conscious handling of risks with full consent
    • PRICK (Personal Responsibility, Informed Consensual Kink): Emphasis on personal responsibility We highlight the differences, advantages, and disadvantages of these principles and help you find the right mindset for your play.

    Equipment and practice – BDSM in application

    BDSM knowledge also includes practice. In this section, we explain what equipment is available and how to use it safely. Typical topics:

    • Bondage ropes and restraints – basics of safe knotting
    • Impact instruments – from paddles to whips
    • Toys for pain, pleasure, and control
    • Clothing and fetishes – from leather to latex With our guides, you will learn how to put BDSM into practice without neglecting safety.

    Psychological aspects of BDSM

    BDSM is not only physical, but also mental. Dominance, submission, and role reversal have a strong psychological component. In our articles, we explain:

    • why power games are so fascinating
    • how trust plays a central role in BDSM
    • how psychological dynamics increase pleasure and intimacy This knowledge will help you better understand BDSM and consciously experience it.

    Community knowledge: experience reports and exchange

    In Tom Rocket’s blog, you will not only benefit from advice, but also from real experience reports from the community. Users share their stories, reveal tips, and show you how diverse BDSM is in practice. This exchange makes our BDSM 1×1 lively and practical.

    Regular updates and new BDSM knowledge

    The world of BDSM is constantly evolving. New trends, new types of play, and new discussions are expanding the field. In Tom Rocket’s BDSM blog, we keep you up to date with the latest information, fresh experience reports, and exciting articles.

    BDSM knowledge for gay men at Tom Rocket’s

    Whether it’s the basics, principles, or practice – Tom Rocket’s BDSM 101 offers you everything you need to experience BDSM safely, consciously, and pleasurably. From BDSM info about safe words, boundaries, and aftercare to BDSM facts from the community – here you’ll find the perfect mix of knowledge and practice.

    Tom Rocket’s is your source for BDSM knowledge, community exchange, and practical tips—for an intense, safe, and fulfilling BDSM experience.