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You probably know the situation where you’re asked as the “side” how you have sex without penetrative anal sex. Let me tell you, it works just fine without the back door. Sexual diversity starts with massages, blowjobs, handjobs, and even dry humping. It’s as dry as it sounds, but it’s definitely not boring. Dry humping is just what it sounds like, and it can be damn satisfying. Use our beginner’s guide to slowly work your way up.
What’s behind dry humping?
If you’ve been following the cowboys at Tom Rockets for a while, you know that we recommend a good lubricant for just about everything in life. As dry as the name sounds, you can even use it for dry humping. But that depends on what clothes you’re wearing. But let’s start from the beginning. Dry humping means rubbing yourself against something. In solo mode, that can be a pillow, your sofa, a stuffed animal, or anything else you have on hand.
When dry humping with your partner, you use them as a friction point. The secret to dry sex is that your clothes stay on. How much of them is up to you. Some gay men only rub against each other in their underwear, others even leave their T-shirts and jeans on. This is the perfect option if you’re horny for each other outside but don’t want to cause a public nuisance.
How to experience your first dry sex alone
Are you curious and would like to try it? Dry humping works wonderfully alone. This way, you can perfect your technique and find out how intense you like it. You need a suitable place where you can rub yourself.
Here are a few examples that are popular with gay men:
● A stuffed animal that normally has its place on the bed
● The sofa cushion that usually only holds the remote control
● Your mattress in the bedroom
● A sex toy that turns you on
An XL dildo like this is the perfect partner for dry humping if you just want to try it out. You can take your clothes off, but you’ll need some lubricant. If you want to be more discreet, just leave your pants on and rub the dildo against your best asset.
How dry humping works with a partner
Dry humping is a popular way for couples to have sex without penetration. You get close to each other, wrap your arms around each other, kiss and fondle each other, and look deep into each other’s eyes. Instead of inserting your penis, you rub it against your lover. Where you rub it is up to you (and him).
Some men rub their genitals directly against each other, but dry humping is also possible with other parts of the body. There are gay men who deliberately rub themselves against their partner’s ass until they ejaculate. The typical variation, however, is cock to cock, because that way both sides get something out of it.
Actually, dry humping is self-explanatory, you don’t have to pay attention to anything special. Get yourselves hot and when you feel like it, rub your cocks together. How fast, how slow and in what position is a matter of taste.
Typical positions for dry humping among gay men
The same positions are suitable for satisfying dry sex as for anal intercourse. A classic is the cowboy position, where you or your partner is on top while the other lies on their back. The cowboy is the active partner, as they rub their cock deliberately against the other and control the pace.
Other options are:
● Sitting dry humping: You squat facing each other with your legs spread apart and meet in the middle. If you are both naked, be sure to use a lubricant. You can start by rubbing your balls together and later your genitals. In real dry humping, however, you don’t take your clothes off; the friction is caused by the clothes.
● Lying down: If you are both wearing clothes and want to feel each other as intensely as possible, the missionary position is perfect. You lie body to body and can rub against each other intensely. The person on top can turn around and stick their butt up in the air. The disadvantage is that only the active dry humper is stimulated.
● The spoon: The spoon position is also a bit one-sided, because only the big spoon gets any friction. However, if you lie behind, you can still ensure mutual satisfaction. Use a masturbator and satisfy him while rubbing yourself against him. A hand job is also easy in this position.
The best way to find your favorite position is to try it out with your lover. Dry humping can even work standing up and is incredibly hot if you want to get each other going when you’re out and about. Just rub yourself against him in the elevator and whisper dirty words in his ear. Anyone who says that side couples have a boring sex life just doesn’t know what they’re talking about.
Is dry humping safe?
Fully clothed, dry sex is a fairly safe practice. Although bodily fluids play a role, you don’t exchange them directly with each other. Not everyone climaxes from rubbing together, but even if you do, it doesn’t necessarily come into contact with your partner’s body.
The situation is different if you are completely naked or you and your partner are only wearing underwear. In this case, an exchange of bodily fluids cannot be ruled out and the typical precautionary recommendations for safer sex apply.
Tip: Friction not only generates heat, but can also cause chafing. Dry sex is not comfortable in every outfit. If you’re wearing jeans with a zipper, it can get painful with intense friction. Comfortable clothes like joggers or just boxer shorts are a good choice. If it gets uncomfortable or “dry,” there’s nothing wrong with putting a handful of lube on your penis. If one of you is wearing latex or vinyl clothing, it’s even a must. Otherwise, the friction would be too painful for the penis.
Conclusion: Hot sex for sides is also possible “dry.”
Maybe you’ve even “humped” before, because many gay men rub against each other when they’re horny but can’t find a place to fuck. Dry humping is a hot way for all sides (and non-sides) to give each other pleasure. The big advantage is that you can do it anywhere, at least while you’re still dressed.
In the club bathroom, at the gym, or behind the bushes by the lake? Anywhere two horny people are attracted to each other and don’t want to fuck, dry humping is an option.
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