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Diaper fetishism has many different names and forms. Medically, it is referred to as autonepiophilia or adult baby syndrome. This fetish can be classified as age play. It is important to differentiate that diaper fetishists have no actual interest in children wearing diapers, but rather put themselves in this role or care for another “diaper lover.”
How is diaper fetishism practiced?
There are different ways to live out a diaper fetish. Most commonly, affected men wear adult diapers themselves and even use them for excretion. Sometimes the diaper is only used for urine, sometimes also for bowel movements. This depends on the nature of the fetish.
Some enthusiasts also live out the role of a baby by using pacifiers, drinking from bottles, or being cared for (changed) by their (adult) parents in role-play. However, this is not a requirement; many men simply use diapers to satisfy their sexual desires. They masturbate in the diaper or feel sexually aroused when they urinate.
The expression of this fetish is multifaceted. A purely sexual fetish for diapers themselves is just as possible as full-blown role-playing based on ageplay.
Where does diaper fetishism come from?
There are now even scientific papers on how diaper fetishism develops. Researchers assume that early rejection in childhood can lead adults to develop a fetish for childlike practices.
Sometimes men with a diaper fetish also want to escape their role in everyday life. When the diaper wearer takes on the role of the “baby” and allows their “parents” to care for and look after them, this often has a very relaxing effect.
But what does this mean for you if you are into diapers? Is there a psychological background? There may be, but there doesn’t have to be. And even if there is, it doesn’t say anything about you as a person. A fetish that doesn’t hurt anyone else and makes you feel good is nothing to be ashamed of.
Online forums clearly show that diaper fetishists are not alone. There are entire communities of men (and, less commonly, women) who exchange ideas, look for partners for diaper play, and destigmatize their fetish.
Diapers in BDSM with a different meaning
In BDSM, slaves wear diapers even if they do not have a classic diaper fetish. The diaper (usually worn with rubber pants) is a means to an end and serves to humiliate the slave. A large part of the fetish clothing worn by BDSM enthusiasts is not necessarily worn because of a passion for the materials. The practical use is of great importance.
A diaper slave, for example, is required by their dom to wear a diaper for a certain period of time. If they need to urinate or defecate during this time, they have no chance to go to the toilet. This is a great humiliation for a non-diaper fetishist, but a popular means of pressure for the dom. Some diaper slaves have a diaper fetish but still feel “tormented” and aroused by the dom’s control.
Common types of diaper fetishism
A fetish is defined by the fact that you, as a fetishist, need a certain object, practice, or even an item of clothing to stimulate you sexually. Many fetishes vary in intensity and are known in different forms, including diaper fetishism. We will introduce you to the most common variations.
The adult baby
Adult baby players integrate diapers into their role-playing. The diaper is not the focus, but only part of the action. The game itself is more important. Baby play usually takes place in a kind of session. The adult baby slips into the role of an infant for a set period of time and leaves control to the “adult.”
Adult babies play with their rattles, suck on their breasts or pacifiers, and get their diapers changed. Such games do not necessarily have an erotic component. As with puppy play, the primary goal here is to take on a specific role.
In contrast to this, there is adult “child play.” Here, not only diapers are used, but often toilet inserts or even potties.
The diaper fetishist
A true diaper fetishist is sexually attracted to diapers themselves. This form of fetish is classified as object fetishism. Some men love shoes, others are into vinyl, and diaper fetishists like diapers. They usually only wear them during sexual moments and do not take them with them in everyday life. There may be exceptions if there is a BDSM component. In this case, your dom might order you to wear your diapers at work to control you.
The diaper lover
Sounds similar at first, but it’s different. A diaper lover is someone who loves diapers. However, they don’t have a classic fetish because they are capable of sexual arousal without diapers. Many diaper lovers do not use diapers sexually at all, but simply to fulfill certain needs. They find it stimulating to wear diapers when shopping or even when visiting a restaurant.
Where do diaper lovers get their diapers?
Drugstores offer a huge selection of diapers, but most of them are made for children. Adult diaper fetishists can either use incontinence pants from drugstores or special adult diapers available in pharmacies and medical supply stores.
Not all, but many diaper lovers value a fastening system that works like classic children’s diapers. Instead of simply pulling the diaper pants up, there is a double adhesive strip on the sides. It is easy to find the right diapers online.
The right size can be determined based on clothing size. Sizes are typically listed from S to XXL or larger, depending on the retailer. The waist size also provides information about the diaper size. If it is between 30 and 32, size XS is suitable for incontinence products.
Is diaper fetishism embarrassing?
Diaper fetishism is less common than, for example, foot fetishism, although absolute figures are not available. Not everyone affected talks about it, and that’s okay. No fetish is a reason to be ashamed. Diaper fetishism is often equated with pedophilia by ignorant people.
This is a mistake, because diaper fetishists are not interested in children, but in diapers. They use them as fetish objects, as objects of desire, for satisfaction or, in BDSM, also to exercise dominance. If you have a fetish for diapers, you don’t need to be ashamed of it. Sexual desire is multifaceted, and “kinkshaming” is not only out in 2025, it’s embarrassing.
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