Wanking & Solo Play

What separates a solo session from a quick wank

Solo play is wanking treated as a session with a plan. What separates it from a quick release is mainly time. A session with build-up, pauses and switches runs 30 minutes or longer; the fast one in the shower is over in 3 minutes. Everything on this page sits in that range.

Where wanking, masturbating, jerking off and autosexuality start to diverge as words is sorted out in are you still wanking, or already masturbating.

Wanking techniques: grip, pace and pressure

3 things decide how a session goes: grip, pace and pressure. Most men locked in all 3 at 15 and have left them alone ever since, and that is exactly where the biggest improvement comes from. Anyone who wants to wank better switches hands and varies the pace. Then come the zones that usually get skipped: the head, the frenulum on the underside and the balls.

The guide to grips, positions and techniques lays out the basics with tips for more variety. Handjob techniques and the perfect handjob show how the same movements feel on someone else’s cock. For the forgotten zones there are guides to glans massage, the frenulum and testicle play.

Foreskin or circumcised: how the grip changes

The foreskin is the one anatomical difference that genuinely changes technique. With a foreskin the skin glides over the head and lube stays optional. Circumcised, the head is exposed and more sensitive, and the friction calls for lube.

What that means for the grip in practice is spelled out in the comparison of both anatomies while wanking. The same anatomy also makes a practice for 2 possible: in penis docking the foreskin slides over the other man’s head.

Controlling the climax: edging, cum control, tease and denial

Control over timing is what turns 10 minutes into an hour. All the variants share 1 principle: stop just short of the edge, let arousal drop, build it back up. Each round makes the finish more intense.

Edging is the basic form and takes only a few sessions to learn. Cum control carries the same skill into sex with another man, and delaying your orgasm shows what works just short of the edge. The hardest variant is tease and denial, where the session deliberately ends before the climax.

Gooning: when wanking turns into a state

Gooning is a trance-like state during long wanking sessions, where thinking recedes and arousal is all that remains. The practice is related to edging, and some men use the 2 words interchangeably. In gay usage the term means the state itself and the hours it takes to get there.

How to goon explains how that trance builds and what porn, poppers and repetition contribute to it. What is gooning gives the definition and clears up the usual misconceptions.

Hands-free, anal and other routes to orgasm

Wanking needs a hand only because that is how most men learned it. 4 other routes replace it or add to it: pelvic floor training, anal stimulation through the prostate, toys, and friction against a body or a surface.

• Hands-free wanking takes practice and then opens a new route to orgasm
• Anal masturbation works through the prostate and stays interesting for sides who leave anal out of partnered sex
• A footjob shifts the stimulation to the feet
• Sounding, inserting a rod into the urethra, is far more specialised, and the step-by-step guide walks through the safety rules
• Strokers, cock rings and prostate toys change friction, pressure and duration; what each one does in practice is compared in sex toys

Autofellatio: sucking your own cock

Autofellatio means giving yourself head. 2 things decide whether it works: spine flexibility and proportions. A minority of men can reach their own cock, and training shifts that limit only a little.

How to self suck shows what helps and where most men stall. The oral side of it is covered under Blowjobs & Oral.

Load size, cumshots and what actually affects them

Semen is over 90% fluid from the prostate and seminal vesicles, with sperm cells making up a fraction of the volume. Volume varies with abstinence, hydration and age. You can increase it, but in far smaller steps than ads and porn suggest. The visible part comes down to pressure at the finish, and that can be trained.

• 4 simple methods for more cum, from abstinence to hydration
• 7 foods for a higher load and what diet can contribute
• Producing more semen ranks the options by likely impact
• Increasing sperm quantity and quality with the medical background
• 3 exercises for bigger cumshots train the pressure at the finish
• Orgasm and cum breaks down what the body does during all of it

What happens afterwards: facials, cum dumps and stains

After the shot, 3 things matter: playing with the load, safer sex and stains. A self facial sends the shot to your own face; a pearl necklace lands on neck and chest. A cum dump takes load after load from other men, and safer sex is a fixed part of that practice.

The guides to the self facial, the pearl necklace and the cum dump go into detail. Practical matters start with cum stains on fabric and sofas. The cum mask guide checks whether the skin care claims hold up. Anyone who needs extra loads for photos or role-play will find 3 fake cum recipes.

Places, situations and doing it together

Wanking changes with the location more than with any technique, and 4 settings change it most: outdoors, the office, a condom and a second man. In each of them arousal shifts from friction to the situation. Mutual wanking often feels more intimate to couples than other sex, because both men give and watch at the same time.

Wanking outside maps out places beyond the bed and marks the legal boundary, and wanking in the office covers the classic risk scenario. Jerking with a condom sounds redundant at first, yet it changes both friction and clean-up noticeably. Masturbation with your partner shows how wanking for 2 becomes a practice of its own, and adding body contact takes you to Frotting & Dry Humping.

Health, frequency and stubborn myths

Health-wise there is little to say against regular wanking: it lowers stress, improves sleep, and at everyday frequencies the body copes well; long sessions mainly leave the skin sore. The familiar horror stories, from hair loss to testosterone depletion, have been debunked by research. 2 risks are real and mechanical. Always gripping the same way strains the tendons. Years of one firm grip lead to death grip syndrome, where the body gets used to a stimulus that a mouth or an arse struggles to match.

The evidence is laid out in is masturbation healthy and in the 10 benefits. Common masturbation myths clears up the remaining claims. Preventing tendon sheath inflammation and death grip syndrome show how to avoid the 2 real risks and how to get out of them again. For jelqing, the stretching technique promising extra length, the promise runs ahead of the evidence. On frequency, how often gay men masturbate gives the numbers and wanking for advanced players shows what that frequency looks like in practice.

Common questions about wanking

Can you wank the wrong way?

Technically yes. Morally, that is your business alone. 2 habits carry consequences: a permanently tight grip, which leads to death grip syndrome, and the same movement over years, which strains the tendons. Varying grip, pace and hand takes care of both. Lube reduces the friction that causes soreness during long sessions.

How often do gay men wank on average?

Surveys land at several times a week, with a very wide spread from daily to monthly. The figure tells you little, because age, relationship status and stress influence it more than orientation does. As a rule of thumb: normal is whatever frequency leaves your day and your sex life intact.

Does masturbation cause hair loss?

Hair loss has other causes. The myth rests on the idea that ejaculation lowers testosterone for good. In reality testosterone fluctuates only briefly after orgasm. Male hair loss is genetic in most cases and comes down to how sensitive the follicles are to dihydrotestosterone (DHT).

What happens if you wank 3 times in a row?

Volume drops with each round, because the prostate and seminal vesicles need time to refill. After 2 or 3 orgasms what comes out is often clear fluid. Then the refractory period sets in, the pause before the next erection, and it lengthens with age. Your body copes fine, though friction soreness does show up across 3 rounds.

Does wanking alone replace sex with other men?

For most guys the 2 run side by side. Years of coming with the same grip at the same pace make it hard for a mouth or another man’s hand to keep up. Varying the technique keeps that gap small. For sides, wanking alone is its own part of the repertoire, independent of sex with other men.