Techniques & Positions

79 anal sex positions from A to W

23 anal sex positions to try opens the run and reaches from Afternoon Delight to the Cowboy variants. 27 Anal Sex Positions picks up at Crab and ends at Mirror of Pleasure. 29 Hot Anal Sex Positions for Gays takes over from Missionary and closes with the Warrior variants. Together that makes 79 entries in alphabetical order.

The entries follow the same pattern. They name the activity for both sides, active or passive, along with the posture: lying, sitting, kneeling, standing or on all fours. Each one then adds 2 yoga poses, one for the giver and one for the receiver. Anyone browsing for a position knows in advance what it asks of the body.

Why the angle decides more than the name

Anal positions for fulfilling sex gives 2 reasons why the position carries weight during anal sex. On the one hand it decides whether the receiver can relax, and relaxation is the condition for the rest. On the other it shifts the stimulation: towards the prostate for the receiver, towards tightness and friction for the top. Both depend on the angle, because the penis enters differently in every posture.

That guide describes 6 positions in detail: missionary, entwined spoons, riding forwards and backwards, doggy style, anal sex standing up, and the lit candle. The last of those comes from the Kama Sutra, which 10 hot gay Kama Sutra poses covers with 10 poses of its own. The choice is up to the 2 people involved. What matters is how angle, depth and pace fit them. If you want more depth, slings can help by changing the angle and adding support.

Anal fingering: a build-up of 5 to 10 minutes

How to Finger Your Ass builds everything on 3 things: short nails, plenty of lube and patience. Gloves and a quick rinse are optional extras before you start.

Anal fingering runs in 6 steps, starting with a full minute of circling the opening from the outside. The build-up takes 5 to 10 minutes for most men. Beyond going in and out, 5 movements matter. Come-hither towards the prostate, circles against the wall, gentle scissoring with 2 fingers, steady pressure, and a pause of a few seconds. Mixing all 5 keeps the sensation alive, because habituation flattens it faster than most men expect.

4 positions change the angle: on the back with knees up, on all fours, side lying and standing bent forward. How to Reach a Prostate Orgasm Through Fingering takes the same route towards the prostate orgasm.

Where the P-spot sits and how pressure works there

P-spot is the common name for the prostate. How Prostate Massage Takes You From P-Spot to Orgasm describes a walnut-sized organ of muscle fibres, glands and ducts. It sits below the bladder, wraps around the urethra and produces the milky alkaline fluid that carries the sperm cells.

During anal sex you reach it 5 to 7 centimetres inside, against the front wall towards the belly. Slow, firm pressure gets more reaction there than fast movement. A dry orgasm is part of the picture too, with the climax arriving while the semen stays inside. Why it feels so intense remains an open question, but two explanations come up most often. One points to the prostate plexus, a bundle of nerves linked directly to prostate, penis and urethra. The other theory is simpler: paying close attention to that area can intensify what you feel.

You can also stimulate it indirectly from the outside, through the perineum between scrotum and anus. The effect is weaker there, because the pressure has more tissue to cross. 1 warning applies to all of it: oversized plugs and rough handling can tear the sphincter, and overstretching carries a long-term risk of incontinence. For the anatomy behind the gland, see Anal 101.

Anal sex at the pace the bottom chooses

7 Tips for Better Bottom Sex clears up a conflation: receiving and being passive are 2 separate things. Riding puts the bottom on top, in charge of both pace and depth. Changing position regularly is the simplest way for him to stay in charge, and talking about pace does the rest.

On size, girth matters more than length. A commonly cited range is 11 to 17 centimetres. 12 centimetres with a lot of girth are often harder work than 18 slim ones. One practical grip helps here: once the top closes his hand around the shaft, the part that can be taken gets shorter.

Bottom Training works up to it through plugs in ascending sizes. Anal Toys covers which materials and bases are safe for that.

The top’s role: anatomy, lube, pace

Anatomy comes first in How to Have Better Top Sex: 7 Tips. 2 muscles close the anus, one inside and one outside, and the anal lining stays dry even at full arousal. Lube is therefore a must for every top, along with enough time on entry.

For both roles, the same position often works best. Riding lets the receiver hold the pace while the top hands over control of the speed. For a first entry the head circles the opening. Then only the tip goes in, then a pause, then the rest step by step. On the way out the top holds the condom at its base.

For everything that comes before, Foreplay Tips to Get Him in the Mood goes into more detail.

Stretching in half-centimetre steps

Anal training puts numbers on progress. How to Start Anal Training the Right Way calls roughly 0.5 centimetres more in diameter a sound step. A medium toy measures around 3 to 4 centimetres across. Once the first size goes in easily after 4 to 5 sessions, the body is ready for the next one. Experienced players train more than once a week, up to daily.

One warning matters here. At the start, insert the training tool only part of the way and keep it in briefly. Left too deep and too long, it becomes hard to remove, and small tears in the lining follow. Anal Hygiene covers how much cleaning makes sense beforehand.

His balls: 5 techniques and 1 hard limit

How to Play With His Balls treats the testicles as an erogenous zone in their own right, wired separately from the penis. 5 techniques follow: massage, licking, tying off with a ring, a vibrator, and kneading while wanking.

Ball play has hard limits, and they come with numbers. For constriction rings 30 minutes is the documented ceiling. The common belief that tying off boosts circulation has it backwards: the ring dams the venous return first. Case reports sort genital strangulation into 4 stages, with 1 documented death after more than 48 hours. A hard blow can rupture the tunica albuginea, the firm capsule around the testicle, and that takes roughly 50 kilograms of force. Sudden severe testicular pain is an emergency.

2 findings here reach beyond ball play. Oil ruins latex, which rules it out for latex toys and condoms alike. And on blue balls, a 2024 review in the Journal of Sexual Medicine found just one case report published since 2000.

Stamina, gang bangs and creampies

Multiple orgasms rest on 2 anatomical points: the Jen-Mo point on the perineum and the PC muscle, short for pubococcygeus. How Gay Men Can Have Multiple Orgasms covers both. How to Increase Your Sexual Stamina structures the long session.

What Makes a Gang Bang with Others So Hot describes the variant built around a group. The Hot Rush of a Creampie looks at what happens after the climax. For first-hand accounts of all of it, see the Testimonials.

Car, shower, water: what the place does to the lube

In unusual places, lube, grip and available space all matter. Sex in the shower and Having Sex in Water back that with numbers.

Two lines of research have the numbers. A group around Bruce Voeller tested latex condoms in a standardised air burst test in 1989. 60 seconds of contact with mineral oil cut the strength by around 90 %. The median time to bursting fell from just under a minute to a little over 11 seconds. Soap and shower gel make poor substitutes too: surfactants strip the skin of its oil film, and after 5 minutes it is drier than before.

Over 14 years the University Hospital of Bern logged every emergency involving a bath or a shower, 280 patients between 2000 and 2014. 235 of them, or 83.9 %, were hurt by hitting an object on the way down rather than by landing on the floor. The dangerous parts are the edges at head height: the tap, the glass rim, the shelf. For the rectum a 2015 study by Vishwanathan adds a finding of its own. In 21 macaques a strongly hyperosmolar water-based lubricant of over 8,000 milliosmoles per kilogram stripped epithelial tissue. The tissue damage is documented. The amount of virus needed for an infection stayed the same across both groups. The practical rule that follows: once water is involved, silicone-based lube is the one to reach for.

Hot Sex in the Car is more straightforward, and the issue there is space. Doggy on the back seat, missionary on the rear bench and the open boot of an estate car are 3 of 7 variants.

Common questions on anal sex positions and technique

Which anal sex position is the best?

3 things decide which position works best: the angle on entry, the stimulation for both sides, and how comfortable the bottom feels. The catalogue leaves them unranked, so the 2 people involved settle it between them. The choice therefore stays a question of the moment.

How many anal sex positions are there?

79 positions, ordered alphabetically from Afternoon Delight to Warrior. The catalogue runs in 3 parts of 23, 27 and 29 entries. Every entry names activity and posture for both sides plus 2 matching yoga poses. That gives you a read on what each one asks of the body before you try it.

How do I start with anal fingering?

With 1 finger at the entrance and plenty of lube on it. Circle the fingertip outside for a full minute, then rest it against the opening under light pressure until the sphincter opens by itself. The whole build-up takes 5 to 10 minutes across 6 steps.

How do I reach the prostate during anal sex?

Around 5 to 7 centimetres inside, curling the finger towards the belly. You are feeling for a firm, walnut-sized bump that stands out against the softer tissue around it. Slow, firm pressure works better there than fast strokes, and an empty bladder removes the urge to pee that usually comes first.

Does the bottom set the pace during anal sex?

In the riding position he does. The receiver sits on top and decides how fast and how deep it goes. That same setup suits the top, because it hands the speed over exactly where it matters most. Regular changes of position keep that control with him.