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Anyone who still believes that sides don’t have fun in bed doesn’t know about intimate massage. From man to man, you have the opportunity to take your lover to completely different spheres using only your hands. No, it’s not just jerking off with massage oil; an intimate massage is a form of pleasure that can last a long time. How long is up to you. Incidentally, there is even a name for this experience in tantra. The lingam massage provides maximum pleasure for him and can strengthen the bond between you. We’ll tell you how to do it.
Preparations for an intimate massage
Before you start, prepare yourself and the environment for the planned intimate massage.
The following steps are necessary:
● The environment: If you don’t have a massage table, lay towels on the bed so that the massage oil doesn’t leave stains. You can also use a fetish sheet if you have one handy. Tidy up the bedroom a bit, because an intimate massage is also about peace and relaxation.
● Your hands: Rough and cracked hands feel unpleasant on his penis. Grab a pumice stone and use it to care for your palms. Remove calluses, apply hand cream, and cut your nails short. Even if you don’t penetrate him, cracked nails are a source of pain.
● The setting: Create a calm and relaxing atmosphere. A scented candle can influence the mood, dim lighting and quiet music are good for the mindset.
A little tip: If you want to give your lover an intimate massage, take a shower together beforehand. It’s more fun when he’s freshly washed and you’re freshly showered too. Plus, you can already start turning each other on under the water.
The five best techniques for intimate massage
He’s lying naked in front of you and you’ve warmed up some lubricant or massage oil between your fingers? Then start gently stroking his thighs, touch his testicles and gradually move closer to his penis (also called the lingam in tantra). Use the following five techniques to add variety to the experience.
1. Awaken his desire
For this technique, he lies on his back with his penis resting on his stomach. Use your thumb and index finger of one hand to gently stroke the sides of his penis. Work your way up from the bottom until you reach the tip of his penis. Only touch it if you have enough lubricant on your fingers, otherwise it will be uncomfortable.
Your free hand can gently stroke his testicles, touch his groin, or massage his perineum. You can tell if he likes it by his physical reaction. Is his penis getting erect? Then you can try a new technique.
2. For uncircumcised men
If your lover is uncircumcised, you will find the frenulum on the underside of his glans. This is the band that connects the foreskin and the glans. In circumcised men, this area is often removed and is no longer as sensitive. Uncircumcised men have a particularly sensitive erogenous zone here.
Enclose his penis with one hand and gently pull back the foreskin. Now moisten a finger with lubricant and massage the frenulum. Focus only on this spot and don’t stray from it.
Start very gently at first, as this area is very sensitive. If he enjoys the touch, you can speed up or vary the tempo. But be careful, some men can climax from a frenulum massage.
3. The corkscrew method
You will need a lot of lubricant for this technique. It is best to use a silicone-based lubricant, as it provides long-lasting lubrication.
Enclose his shaft with one hand and pull back the foreskin (if present) over the glans. If your partner is circumcised, hold his penis upright with your free hand and stroke his testicles with your little finger.
Now put a generous amount of lubricant in your palm and cup his glans with it. Now make twisting movements as if you were trying to unscrew the cap of a bottle. You can also change the direction, as if you were squeezing a lemon.
Tip: With this technique, it is particularly important that your palms are soft and not calloused. If many areas are rough, use gloves, which, together with lubricant, will make it a slippery pleasure for him.
4. The wringer
For this method, you will need both hands and plenty of lubricant again. Place both hands on top of each other around his penis so that only the tip is visible. Now move them in opposite directions as if you were wringing out a damp cloth. Be careful not to apply too much pressure, as this will cause a “stinging effect.”
With this method, you can adjust the speed to suit his pleasure. If he is panting too heavily and you want to delay his orgasm a little longer, squeeze more slowly. If you want to bring him to climax, speed up until he can release himself.
5. The fire stick
Have you ever seen men making fire in the wilderness? One method is to rotate a stick in a hollow with tinder to generate heat and thus a flame through friction. This also works with his penis, but in a gentler way. Just imagine that his penis is the stick you want to use to light a fire.
Be sure to rub plenty of lubricant on yourself and his penis beforehand so that the skin doesn’t stick painfully. Now place his hands around it without closing them.
Now rub back and forth alternately. You can work your way from top to bottom and back again. Remember to keep adding lubricant so that the intimate massage stays wet and slippery.
Why an intimate massage can be so wonderful
Sides don’t have fun in bed? That is and remains a big misconception. An intimate massage is also exciting for those who have no problem with anal penetration. Unlike a hand job, the goal here is not to bring him to climax as quickly as possible. It’s about relaxing you and your partner, increasing pleasure, and sharing intimate moments together. And hey, maybe he’ll want to return the favor with an intimate massage for you?
A little tip from experience: It even works at the same time in the sideways 69 position!
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